Learning to meet women is possibly the most essential part of dating. Why is this? Its simple – if you never learn how to meet women, you will never get a date, have a relationship, have sex or get married. Its like learning to crawl before you learn to walk – learn the art of approaching women and your dating life will have a one hundred percent turn around.
So what are the keys to learning to meet women successfully? Some of the essential components include learning to read the female body language in order to gauge whether or not your approach is likely to be successful, training your own inner game to relay confidence, ways to promote conversation, how to use flirtation to augment attraction – to name a few.
The first key – learning to read the female body language – is especially important and is possibly one of the simplest things to learn. Many men over the years have realized that women tend to say one thing and mean another. This is not necessarily an attempt at deception – in fact, it is generally done out of complete ignorance of the true source of her own feelings. For instance – a woman may say she likes men who are tall. You are only 5′4″ – but don’t count yourself out. Why does she like tall men? Not necessarily because they have to duck to get in the car. It could be that tall men make her feel safe and protected. At 5′4″, can you do the same? Of course you can. Pay attention to her body language to find out what it is she wants.
On great way to get a glimpse of what a woman really wants is to pay attention to her eyes. Want a really simple way to see if a woman is open to an approach? Check out this little golden nugget:
The next time you go out, anywhere, make an effort to make eye contact with every attractive woman you see. I don’t mean fleeting eye contact, ducking your head with a nervous guffaw and turning away. Look into her eyes until she returns your gaze. When you have her attention and your eyes are locked, smile and raise your eyebrows at her.
If she smiles back, holds eye contact for a little longer, and looks away in that embarrassed manner that most women do when they start feeling attraction, then keeps looking back at you, guess what? She’s open to you meeting her!
On the other hand, if she displays no expression and looks away quickly, or of course displays some other disdainful expression or irritation, you would be wasting your time to approach her and get rejected.
Remember – learning to approach women will skyrocket your dating success, so quit being a wallflower and get out there and meet some girls today!
Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body language than men are. I have to say that in my experience, women can detect all kinds of things from body language. Ask a female friend to describe what’s going on with a person by looking at them, and you’ll be surprised at all the information they’ll give you. So it follows that if women are so in tune with body language, you might as well get some of the basics together so you’re transmitting the right messages. My opinion is that women prefer men who are confident, bordering on arrogant. Most women will tell you that arrogant men turn them off, but I’ve found that if you mix humor with a little arrogance, it’s a killer. So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence? Well, first of all walk upright, hold your head up, and hold your shoulders back. Next, SLOW DOWN your movements and make slower, calculated gestures. Then, make eye contact and keep it when you see women. Don’t look away until they do and kind of squint while raising an eyebrow. I’ve done a lot of work in this area, and I’ve found that by SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how fast I talk, and even how fast I blink. Also, start taking up more space and opening up your physiology. If you’re seated, keep your legs and arms uncrossed. Keep your legs far apart and your shoulders back. Don’t lean forward; lean back. This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE details make all the difference when dealing with a woman. It’s amazing how fast most women can detect insecurity, neediness, and low self-esteem. I personally believe that when a man is self-confident (or more specifically, a woman BELIEVES that he is), women are attracted to him on an UNCONSCIOUS level. What I mean is that I think this behavior activates a part of a woman’s brain that can’t help but feel an attraction. If you’d like a model of confidence, watch some James Bond movies. You’ll notice that James almost never smiles, and I can’t remember when I’ve ever seen him laugh. But James is the sex symbol of masculine adventure. Does he do the things that I mentioned above? Of course. That’s where I learned a lot of them. Ha! Another way to demonstrate and project confidence is to PAUSE while you’re talking. Pausing on purpose creates suspense and tension. It’s great. If you combine pauses with serious looks, you will create an air of power and confidence. For example, you might say, “Well, if I were you, I’d just tell her what you think” like so… “Well… (pause) if I were you… (pause and look into eyes with serious look) I’d just tell her what you think.” This creates what’s known as a ‘subtext’ to the communication. On the surface you’re talking about the normal conversation. But underneath, you’re communicating suspense, confidence, and mystery. If you learn how to mix a seductive voice tone and body language with regular conversation, you’ll find that you can get women turned on talking about random things like the weather. Pause often. It will do wonders for your communication style.
Having the proper body language in flirting with women is an absolute must. Before you can get a woman’s number or possibly go home with her, you have to build attraction and rapport. By developing the “right kind” of body language you’ll be able to increase your overall success with women?
So how do you develop a body language that will draw-in a woman?
Well it can be accomplished in six easy steps that are fairly easy to master:
1) Develop a positive attitude and ambiance
Your overall demeanor is the most important step to developing the proper body language in flirting. This means having fun in your conversation and genuinely enjoying her company. If you take the time to make sure you’re having fun, this attitude will be obvious in your interaction.
2) Carry yourself in a confident manner
A strong and confident personality will always attract women. So when you approach women and engage them in a conversation, take the time to ensure that you come across as confident. Even if you don’t feel particularly confident, keep practicing till you can at least fake it.
3) Maximize the power of your facial expressions
Your facial expressions in conversations have a direct impact on how quickly you can develop rapport with a woman. So make sure you’re sending the right kind of messages. This can be done by maintaining a confident smile and maintaining eye contact with her.
4) Lightly touch her during your interactions
A simple way to quickly build attraction is to lightly touch women during your conversations. By breaking the “touching barrier”, you’re subconsciously demonstrating that you have some attraction to her. But if she pulls away or looks upset, don’t touch her again. This pretty much means she doesn’t want you to touch her right now. (Later on, this could change)
5) Direct your body and attention to her
When you’re talking to woman, make sure that you’re facing her. While this may seem like common sense, a lot guys make the mistake of not paying full attention to women. So when you’re talking to her, make sure that your body appears both open and directly turned towards her.
6) Keep your concentration on what she is saying
Another huge mistake that guys make is letting their mind wander or thinking about how to “get into a woman’s pants”. When you’re talking to a woman, make sure you’re listening to what she is saying. If you let your concentration slip, she’ll probably pick up on the fact that you’re not listening and will get annoyed. Concentrate on what she is saying and let her know that she is the most important person in the room.
By following the six “body language in flirting” steps I described above, you’ll find that your conversations with women are much more successful. In addition you’ll discover that you can get more numbers and have more fun on dates.
We’ve all heard the term “body Language”, but do you really understand it? Body Language is a form of nonverbal communication which is usually understood as the process of sending and receiving wordless messages. Such messages can be communicated through gesture, proximity, body language or posture, facial expressions and eye contact. Generally speaking, there are two things that happen during a conversation; content and process.
1. Content is what actually is said.
2. Process is all the other things that happen during a conversation.
In other words, the content is when we say one thing and the process is when we mean another thing.
Understanding your date’s body language or nonverbal communication can help you determine whether or not your date is on the right track. Misreading your date is perhaps the number one reason that a date becomes a disaster. Many singles often say that they were unsure what their date was thinking or feeling which led to an uncomfortable situation. To help you avoid uncomfortable or a confusing date, read the following 6 nonverbal indicators to help you better understand whether or not your date is interested in you.
1. Eye contact
While sitting with your date, pay close attention to whether or not your date makes routine eye contact. Eye contact or the lack thereof is a powerful communication tool. If your date readily makes eye contact with you, it is a sure sign that he/she is interested and comfortable with you. Strong eye contact is an indicator that the person is involved in your conversation and respects you. Good eye contact also conveys honesty and trust.
The lack of eye contact, however, can mean several things. Typically, the lack of eye contact is a sign that the person you are interacting with is deeply uncomfortable and/or uninterested in you. Poor eye contact can also mean that the person is very shy. Usually, if a person has difficulty making eye contact because of shyness, they will find other means of nonverbal communication to express their like for you if they are interested.
2. Quietness
Everyone who has ever dated has gone through this. Talk about frustrating –countless minutes, even hours of nothing but SILENCE! You try and try but it seems your date just isn’t interested in talking. Ask a detailed question and only receive a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ response. A quiet date could mean just a couple of things. The simplest explanation could be that your date is in a bad mood which has nothing to do with you. Sometimes silence means that your date is shy and may not feel that you would be interested in anything they have to say. Silence usually means that your date is disinterested and bored with you. If your date happens to be quiet and refuses to make eye contact, it is a clue that you may be better off calling it a night and moving on. You will have to evaluate this scenario on your own.
3. Restlessness
This is a sure indicator that your date is not working. If your date is constantly checking his/her watch, fidgeting with items, constantly moving around in his/her chair and seems to be somewhere else your date really is not interested in being present with you. This behavior should tell you that your date would rather be elsewhere.
4. Gazing
When your date is constantly scoping the room to see who else is there, it is a sure sign your date is not interested in you. Looking around and scoping is a mechanism to avoid communicating with you. Conversely, if you find yourself in a crowded place and your date is only focused on you, your date is very interested in what you’re doing and have to say.
5. Body Posture
This is an important and obvious sign of comfort of discomfort. Signs of discomfort are easy to read. They are: constantly leaning away from you, the folding of his/her arms, tightly crossed legs, stiff spine and a body that’s turned at an angle away from you. Those forms of body posture should tell you that communication and physical contact is unwanted.
6. Personal Contact
Physical contact is by far the easist form of nonverbal communication to detect. If your date avoids touching in any manner, holding hands, hugging or light kisses he/she is really turned off by you. Repeated attempts to have physical contact with your date will be taken very negatively if your date objects. If your date initiates physical contact, you should consider it a measure of comfort with you.
In most situations, a combination of the six indicators will be present which should tell you if your date is a hit or a dud. Reading body language is something all of us do on a daily basis but sometimes we try to ignore it when we really want to “like” someone or have them “like” us. Meeting or dating someone new is an important aspect of human interaction. If you want to improve your dating successes, start paying closer attention to what your date says and what your date is really saying.
Here is some news for you: Most attractive women are going to know within a matter of mere seconds whether or not you are a sexually aware and sexually confident man, upon seeing you or interacting directly with you. This is the point where they make a purely unconscious decision of whether or not you could ever be a possible sexual partner. Can you imagine that all of this is done within a matter of seconds or minutes? These unconscious decisions tend to be based on voice tone, and the body language of sexual attraction.
Since at this point we know that attraction is not really a choice that we can make, some things can be generalized as follows -
- If you are unaware of what type of body language communicates that you are sexy or desirable, then you are probably making mistakes completely by accident that could be affecting your chances.
- The words that you say are not really what matters at all. What really matters is how you go about saying them, with a combination of your voice and your body language.
- It is quite possible for you to learn exactly what it will take to communicate that you are both quite sexually aware, and confident in nature, using the tone of your voice and your body language. Learning this skill is going to make the art of attracting beautiful women much easier than before. Unfortunately, not enough people are paying attention to this concept, because too many men out there are caught up in the concept of being macho, and as a result they find themselves wasting away without the ability to attract a beautiful woman.
If you are unaware of what it takes to project the right kind of voice and body language, you are probably doing something wrong. The right moves can give a woman a serious jolt of sexual attraction, but if you are doing anything wrong, you need to change your way of thinking and behaving. Attraction is based so largely on voice and body language, that the only effective way to attract women from the word go is going to be mastering the art of getting her attention and sending a jolt of attraction down her spine.
Here’s an example: If you see a woman that you believe to be attractive, use eye contact longer than her. Do not look away, no matter how self conscious you are feeling. She will notice you looking, and she will appreciate it if you continue looking longer than she does.
