Learning to meet women is possibly the most essential part of dating. Why is this? Its simple – if you never learn how to meet women, you will never get a date, have a relationship, have sex or get married. Its like learning to crawl before you learn to walk – learn the art of approaching women and your dating life will have a one hundred percent turn around.
So what are the keys to learning to meet women successfully? Some of the essential components include learning to read the female body language in order to gauge whether or not your approach is likely to be successful, training your own inner game to relay confidence, ways to promote conversation, how to use flirtation to augment attraction – to name a few.
The first key – learning to read the female body language – is especially important and is possibly one of the simplest things to learn. Many men over the years have realized that women tend to say one thing and mean another. This is not necessarily an attempt at deception – in fact, it is generally done out of complete ignorance of the true source of her own feelings. For instance – a woman may say she likes men who are tall. You are only 5′4″ – but don’t count yourself out. Why does she like tall men? Not necessarily because they have to duck to get in the car. It could be that tall men make her feel safe and protected. At 5′4″, can you do the same? Of course you can. Pay attention to her body language to find out what it is she wants.
On great way to get a glimpse of what a woman really wants is to pay attention to her eyes. Want a really simple way to see if a woman is open to an approach? Check out this little golden nugget:
The next time you go out, anywhere, make an effort to make eye contact with every attractive woman you see. I don’t mean fleeting eye contact, ducking your head with a nervous guffaw and turning away. Look into her eyes until she returns your gaze. When you have her attention and your eyes are locked, smile and raise your eyebrows at her.
If she smiles back, holds eye contact for a little longer, and looks away in that embarrassed manner that most women do when they start feeling attraction, then keeps looking back at you, guess what? She’s open to you meeting her!
On the other hand, if she displays no expression and looks away quickly, or of course displays some other disdainful expression or irritation, you would be wasting your time to approach her and get rejected.
Remember – learning to approach women will skyrocket your dating success, so quit being a wallflower and get out there and meet some girls today!
Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body language than men are. I have to say that in my experience, women can detect all kinds of things from body language. Ask a female friend to describe what’s going on with a person by looking at them, and you’ll be surprised at all the information they’ll give you. So it follows that if women are so in tune with body language, you might as well get some of the basics together so you’re transmitting the right messages. My opinion is that women prefer men who are confident, bordering on arrogant. Most women will tell you that arrogant men turn them off, but I’ve found that if you mix humor with a little arrogance, it’s a killer. So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence? Well, first of all walk upright, hold your head up, and hold your shoulders back. Next, SLOW DOWN your movements and make slower, calculated gestures. Then, make eye contact and keep it when you see women. Don’t look away until they do and kind of squint while raising an eyebrow. I’ve done a lot of work in this area, and I’ve found that by SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how fast I talk, and even how fast I blink. Also, start taking up more space and opening up your physiology. If you’re seated, keep your legs and arms uncrossed. Keep your legs far apart and your shoulders back. Don’t lean forward; lean back. This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE details make all the difference when dealing with a woman. It’s amazing how fast most women can detect insecurity, neediness, and low self-esteem. I personally believe that when a man is self-confident (or more specifically, a woman BELIEVES that he is), women are attracted to him on an UNCONSCIOUS level. What I mean is that I think this behavior activates a part of a woman’s brain that can’t help but feel an attraction. If you’d like a model of confidence, watch some James Bond movies. You’ll notice that James almost never smiles, and I can’t remember when I’ve ever seen him laugh. But James is the sex symbol of masculine adventure. Does he do the things that I mentioned above? Of course. That’s where I learned a lot of them. Ha! Another way to demonstrate and project confidence is to PAUSE while you’re talking. Pausing on purpose creates suspense and tension. It’s great. If you combine pauses with serious looks, you will create an air of power and confidence. For example, you might say, “Well, if I were you, I’d just tell her what you think” like so… “Well… (pause) if I were you… (pause and look into eyes with serious look) I’d just tell her what you think.” This creates what’s known as a ‘subtext’ to the communication. On the surface you’re talking about the normal conversation. But underneath, you’re communicating suspense, confidence, and mystery. If you learn how to mix a seductive voice tone and body language with regular conversation, you’ll find that you can get women turned on talking about random things like the weather. Pause often. It will do wonders for your communication style.
Having the proper body language in flirting with women is an absolute must. Before you can get a woman’s number or possibly go home with her, you have to build attraction and rapport. By developing the “right kind” of body language you’ll be able to increase your overall success with women?
So how do you develop a body language that will draw-in a woman?
Well it can be accomplished in six easy steps that are fairly easy to master:
1) Develop a positive attitude and ambiance
Your overall demeanor is the most important step to developing the proper body language in flirting. This means having fun in your conversation and genuinely enjoying her company. If you take the time to make sure you’re having fun, this attitude will be obvious in your interaction.
2) Carry yourself in a confident manner
A strong and confident personality will always attract women. So when you approach women and engage them in a conversation, take the time to ensure that you come across as confident. Even if you don’t feel particularly confident, keep practicing till you can at least fake it.
3) Maximize the power of your facial expressions
Your facial expressions in conversations have a direct impact on how quickly you can develop rapport with a woman. So make sure you’re sending the right kind of messages. This can be done by maintaining a confident smile and maintaining eye contact with her.
4) Lightly touch her during your interactions
A simple way to quickly build attraction is to lightly touch women during your conversations. By breaking the “touching barrier”, you’re subconsciously demonstrating that you have some attraction to her. But if she pulls away or looks upset, don’t touch her again. This pretty much means she doesn’t want you to touch her right now. (Later on, this could change)
5) Direct your body and attention to her
When you’re talking to woman, make sure that you’re facing her. While this may seem like common sense, a lot guys make the mistake of not paying full attention to women. So when you’re talking to her, make sure that your body appears both open and directly turned towards her.
6) Keep your concentration on what she is saying
Another huge mistake that guys make is letting their mind wander or thinking about how to “get into a woman’s pants”. When you’re talking to a woman, make sure you’re listening to what she is saying. If you let your concentration slip, she’ll probably pick up on the fact that you’re not listening and will get annoyed. Concentrate on what she is saying and let her know that she is the most important person in the room.
By following the six “body language in flirting” steps I described above, you’ll find that your conversations with women are much more successful. In addition you’ll discover that you can get more numbers and have more fun on dates.
As most people have already heard, most (at least 80%) of all information that is transmitted to others is through non-verbal cues or body language.
For example, when speaking with someone, we are more likely to lean in when we are really interested in what the other person is saying, cross our arms if we are defensive or in disagreement, pull back when we are pensive. For women, crossing your legs towards the other person indicates a subconscious desire to create distance.
Body language is especially important when first getting to know another person. With little experience between you, no clues as to who the other person is, their knowledge or interest in given topics; body language is all that we have to go on. And, in fact, body language can be the most intuitive and intimate part of getting to know someone. Body language says a lot about who we are or who the other person is, because we cannot control nor hide it. We cannot falsify or change what our bodies instinctively do. It is pure and honest.
Natural attraction occurs at a first glance, a touch, a smell. And, body language displays more in-depth information as to what the other person is thinking or feeling. Words can have several meanings and be subject to interpretation within a given context, while body language is mostly universal. Think back to the numerous situations within your life, where something that was said was taken out of context or altered. Words without the appropriate tone of voice, body language, inflection, can create misunderstandings. With interracial dating, you must be aware to clarify any cultural differences.
Arms, legs, eyes, mouth, head, and hands are the areas that most often have a clear meaning. Crossed arms are the most obvious negative reaction, which can be caused by discontent, anger, boredom, and withdrawal from the conversation.
Be yourself, and the body language you will transmit to others will convey your true desires.
